I’ve been taking sometime to look back at how far I’ve come in a year as an entrepreneur.
I left my full-time academic job in July of 2012, but it wasn’t until November of that year that I began marketing myself and my talents. I didn’t have a network or a whole lot of support. I knew very few people in my town. Most of the folks I knew within the state of North Dakota, I knew because of my career, in some way. It was scary and I was lonely.
But things have changed.
Today, my young philosopher overheard me calling a friend. “Mom, you know I can’t even keep up with all the people you know!”
I thought to myself, Wow. I really do know a lot of people! Things have changed in a year’s passing.
I was quiet pleased with myself. I took time to give myself the praise, “You have done well finding good people to connect with. It certainly does make life quite a bit richer.”
But that’s only the beginning.
After today’s Farm Beginnings Session, I was extremely motivated.
We talked about mission statements and marketing. I didn’t realize I love this kind of stuff so much, but I do!
I left energized, wanting to share EVERYTHING I learned with my husband, who had to work today.
I left wanting to revisit my visual business plan.
I wanted to get home and beg my chickens to PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE start laying eggs again.
I was ready to dive into next my proposal.
I wanted to go set up for the art class I teach on Monday.
I couldn’t wait to start thinking,
I wanted to start compiling information for my presentation at Farm Beginnings in December, in which I will be talking about how to tell YOUR story.
So much excitement!
But this was familiar…
My mind was reeling with ideas, but I was tired.
I had a quick thought to leave myself a voice message, telling myself about ALL this excitement.
Wait, I’ve done that before. And it wasn’t good.
(Remember, I struggle with issues such as overworking and undervaluing myself.)
It is easy for me to believe that I need to prove my worth through what I do.
In my final 3 months as Vice President of Land Grant programs, I would call my office phone on my drive home. I would leave myself messages about all the things I needed to do the next day.
This my friends, is not a good habit.
I thought it was brilliant at first, but it certainly led to some earlier morning cursing when I checked my voicemail each day.
*Light-bulb moment* Maybe that has something to do with my own disdain for to-do lists. To-do lists are made with our own self-talk imbedded in them. They can be painful if that self-talk used in writing them is overly critical, judgmental, or down right mean.
The point is I had been down this road before. So I backed up.
I did a U-turn before I got to the point of giving myself a to-do list on a Saturday night.
I retraced my steps.
I slowed down and took a look around when I got back to the excitement.
Was it impractical to think I could manage to do all the things that I wanted to do tonight? Or even this weekend?
I suddenly remembered that I had been here too, and that there was a bit more worth exploring.
I remembered the first time I shared my business plan with the folks at the New Rockford Area Betterment Corporation.
I remember the amazing amount of things I wanted to do when I came home.
And I remember not doing anything!
Instead, I was still.
I enjoyed the moment. I felt the excitement.
I didn’t force it into a product or accomplishment.
I let it be part of me.
And I wrote about it! It was my second blog post ever!
I was on the road I wanted to be on. And, I even took it on a little further.
I mentally broke these tasks up by priority and complexity and I scheduled them into my calendar when I got home!
This is truly a first.
I came home, motivated and yet tired, and said to my husband, “Michael, next weekend, I would like to schedule a time to sit down to go over my business plan with you.”
And then, I let everything else “to-do” settle in my calendar and in my brain.
I let the excitement reside in my body as joy.
And then, I played the piano that magically found its way into our house this afternoon.
Thank you so much, Michael. Thank you!
Good going! Or should I say, good Being?
I’m in the process of learning to recognize when to just sit with myself and my feelings. I’ve been better with the “negatives” like anger and frustration… this reminds me to apply the same exercise to overwhelming positives, too. Adrenaline is adrenaline, no matter the source.
Be, Experience, Lessen, Let go, Appreciate. Ninety seconds and the body starts to move on if the brain disengages.
Pianos are good for that!